You want to know the quickest way to ruin a good relationship/connection?
When you and your spouse/friend/bestfriend/gf or bf are having problems go share your frustrations and what they did with your family. I don’t care how close you are to your family DON’T DO IT!
The fact is, if you didn’t know, we are human and WILL make a mistake(s). For married couples, this is more crucial for you. You can’t walk away that easy. Here’s the deal breaker…once you’ve forgiven her/her, your family won’t! There’s a slim 1%, but most likely it will not happen. No matter how much you’ve confessed your love for him/her and you willingness to forgive, your chances are shot. Unless you are emotional strong enough to take the heat and go against everyone’s wishes, you’ll work on your marriage and live better because of it. However, the general man/woman cannot get past their families opinion (just being honest), and will let go of a relationship they’ve desired to have. Same as in a friendship and a general gf/bf relationship.
Families don’t forgive, and in their defense, that’s their job. They’re only looking out for your best interest. Try not to share every aspect of your relationship with family members. Only the good one’s of course.
So…who do I talk too or how do I deal with my frustration? Great question!
1. There are only a few, few meaning ONE, close family member or friend who will be behind you and your decisions regardless of what you decide to do. You’ll know who that person is.
2. Therapists aren’t only for the emotional distressed and unstable, they are there for regular people too. They have an un-biased opinion to help you sort out your feelings without being judgmental. Utilize this resource.
3. Spirituality! There’s nothing like spiritual release or meditation. Give yourself some time to think and let your instinct and intuitive spirit lead the way. You’ll never lead yourself wrong.
Now, before you decide to pick up the phone and call Mom/Dad saying, “You wouldn’t believe what he/she did…” think about what permanent picture you’re painting for your partner, spouse, or best friend, who you intend to be around for a lifetime.