You give people a job, a title, and the minimum job duty requirements expected and they act as if they’re saving you, your life, and the life of your unborn offspring. For the past few weeks I’ve had enormous frustrations about people (mostly in “leadership”) and they’re lack of care and initiative. I know psychology says the vast majority of people naturally respect the suit and tie, scrubs, law enforcement uniform wearing type professionals, but where do you draw the line between logically assessing each on ethic versus title/status? I am all for positive support and uplifting each individual, but I am also for the necessity in letting people know the fraudulent acts thereof–whether conscious or unconsciously. Yeah they say “Fake it till you make it,” but if you’re faking it too long you might want to switch gears–it’s not working out!
In the book Outliers, author Malcolm Gladwell says that it takes roughly ten thousand hours of practice to achieve mastery in a field. If I’m calculating correctly that’s 10 plus years. Because I have studied human behavior and interaction for over 10 years, I can easily detect when someone putting on or not. Therefore I’m just about, if not, an expert in detecting and labeling behaviors.
How do we progress with leaders who are about enhancing their personal resume at the cost of others? How do we progress with leaders SOLELY satisfying the minimum expected requirements to serving? How do we progress with leaders who negative force others to make decisions or who serve with a negatively charged spirit? How? The leaders I known, watched, admired, and grew up under went all in. They didn’t care about frivolous acts. They didn’t care about recognition. They didn’t care about special treatment. Why? Because they knew leadership is for the betterment of “us”. Ego’s has ended the substance in leadership, and technology has made it extremely easy to FOOL the general public. People, don’t be fooled! Please! It burns me to see you praise people for false reasons. It’s like a company tripling the price on the food they serve, claiming it’s organic, yet serve you the same product the corner store sells for less than half the price. It’s the same thing.
To those of you who are FRAUDULENT LEADERS, I know its a trend now-a-days, but SHAME ON YOU! Shame on you to have people look up to you, admire, and aspire to be like you when you are immaturely racking up on opportunities and providing the least amount of diligence to the people you serve. Shame on you for making people falsely believe that they need you by connection or association to be anything in life. Shame on you for making others falsely believe, that by your actions and negative dominance, you dictate their work ethic/opportunity. Shame on you for becoming a disservice not only your community, but yourself as well. Therefore, you bring down or step on others to feel important. You created this false illusion and made this skewed aura your life to distract your reality. People/kids do not look up to you, they look up to the false image/illusion you’ve created. Psychology says you are insecure and you are not sure of yourself or future. The acting is getting old, GIVE-IT-UP!
I hope this specific post ‘checks’ those who are leading under this capacity, but most importantly I hope it charges others to take a second look at the folks who they propel on a pedal stool. Photos, job titles, social networks etc. should all be carefully assessed. You will never get the correct picture peering inside, from the outside of the house. Dig a little deeper, knock on the door, and get inside. I am however, going to apologize to the few who are rightfully acting in there respective positions. May times the good gets lost at the cost of the bad. Not everyone has the background and expertise to detect things, but I am hear to tell you, 98% of the people I interact with, and I interact with quite a few ‘prominent’ people, are NOT serving under the leadership qualities you think.
To the people who say, “Sarah you shouldn’t have said that, you’re going to make people upset, or you’re throwing shade blah, blah, blah..” I quickly will quote the great Martin Luther King Jr that said, “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” Titles, positions, physical appearance, power etc., do not scare me. Why should I be? Again, more than half are acting anyway!
Words from my Mom: “Sarah, do you think these people are not well off and aren’t eating well and/or sleeping at night?” *drops mic
-January 21st Facebook post:
“Never let ANYONE fool you into believing or thinking, that without them you cannot succeed or reach the height of your intended dream/success. No matter the leverage, contact, and/or financial status of another, the fact is you will get to your destination no matter the contact or the lack thereof. The greatest man power you need 1st before you take off is YOURS! Stop searching for others to accessorize what you already have. An shame on those people who FALSELY make you believe that without them you will not succeed!“