Unfiltered Advice on Newtorking: What They Don’t Tell You


Networking is a fancy word for relationships. As we’ve gotten older we’ve heard it many times. “It’s not so much what you know, but who you know.” Let me tell you what they don’t explain. Who you know is not a contact in your phone. Who you know is not associating with someone or taking multiple pictures with them. “Who you know” is simply a full blown sincere working relationship that eventually becomes an actual relationship.

Let me tell you more. Relationships build, break, or bend what you have. Applying the simple principals of being candid, genuine, and trustworthy are crucial. But, I get it. You’ve been conditioned to believe that it’s necessary to step on and barter not only yourself but others to get to your desired destination. But as your building, you’re equaling bending and will soon break what you have. The reality is that people will talk about who you are before they talk about what you know. Read that last sentence again because I KNOW you missed it (who you are vs. what you know). It’s not rocket science the information travels light years quicker than anything else.

Here’s my tip to you. If your intentions are genuine, but you are overly eager to get to your destination or reach success, refrain from creating relationships. I can tell you to be careful who you build one with because you may buck up into the wrong one, but you’ll never know which is which until the deed is done. So I say just hold off a bit. Your starvation for success will override your genuine intentions. You will gain the contact you need, but you’re going to sabotage and kill your career before it takes off. There are a few people who have learned the trade of relationships and have built a strong and successful leverage off of it. They take them (relationships) EXTREMELY seriously. Therefore, if you happen to rub elbows with one of them, and by chance you will be cautious. Those people are called sharks, and in honor of their relationships, they will act in the manner of a shark who has smelled blood in detriment of one. I know because I’m one of them. One last thing. There’s a difference between being hungry and starving. The hungry person will work without sleep to provide their next meal. The person who is starving would rather kill and steal to eat. The starving man may eat quicker than the hungry, but someone will be coming to kill the starving man as soon as he eats.

I’m just here to tell you the things people don’t tell you and why things are the way they are.

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Sarah Lee

Welcome! My name is Sarah Lee and I'm a Business Strategist and social entrepreneur who loves the outdoors, a good book, and scary movies year round! Throughout this quirky, rich, and mysterious life of mine, I genuinely love to 'share' my experiences as a learning tool. I thought, what better way to track my level of growth than by sharing my experiences and the lessons learned thereof, than in my blog? A wise woman once said, "You are your own masterpiece, therefore, instead of mastering it, master you."

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