If I had to be 110% honest, I would say that relationships and the journey to success–THE REAL JOURNEY doesn’t coincide.
It’s too much of a distraction and takes a a-lot of work. The only way I ever see that scenario working, is if that person fully understands and supports the long stressful hours it takes to make something work. Fact is, 98% of us are stuck on our addictions and call them standards. We have to have this by this age. If I do this you do that. If you don’t have this we won’t have that. The list goes on.
I remember a couple of years back when my Dad told me not to marry outside of my profession. Both of my parents are extremely assertive and determined individuals. So I got a double dose of “go getter” in my blood. So he knew who his daughter was. Specifically for girls, growing up we paint this wonderful picture of what life is going to be like. You picture you child saying, “My Dad is a surgeon and my Mom is a lawyer.” If only life were to work the easiest that way.
My Dad furthered his advice in saying that if you’re going to law school, you need to date someone in the legal profession. If not, your partner is not going to understand your dedication, long hours and hard work that it takes to be a GREAT lawyer. One will be somewhere else for long hours (the hospital), while you’re at your firm for long hours. There’s no relationship there. Sure you’ll have the money and you’ll look incredibly amazing on paper, but you’ll have no foundation as to why you two are together.
Napoleon Hill said he had the best secretary on the planet and one of the best things he’s ever done it life was marry her. Jay-Z and Beyonce, is Jay-Z and Beyoncé because of the compatibility of their careers.
The other route is more than possible, but as I said, the only way I ever see that scenario working is if that person fully understands and supports the long stressful hours it takes to make something work. It exists, but I also believe that some people are not up for the work it takes to sail a ship to that magnitude. One of the couples I admire and model after is Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith. They have one of the most admirable and inspirational relationships to date. They’ve been interviewed many times and one of the constant statements repeated when interviewed was, “It takes a-lot of communication and planning, but it can be done.”
Relationships are a full-time job, especially when you have two driven and assertive individuals. Take my Dad’s advice and try dating someone whose in your career field. It makes life a little easier in the successful world.
“Power couples and the possibilities of having one aren’t scarce or impossible. Only the couples who aren’t up for the work are.”