Relationships are a piece of work. If you are truly invested as you should be, certain instantly (whether negative or positive) changes your attraction to that select person–literally within an instant, like magic.
I think the whole method throughout the process in making any relationship last is to “remember” and get back to what it was that initially brought along the friendship, relationship, marriage etc.
Bring back that image or attraction of that person. Because there are multiple layers of who we are, you are bound to find things you like and don’t like. Granted people will be who they decide to be and work on what they choose to work on, however allow people the opportunity to take a shot at making something work.
Relationships are risks and it takes work, but as they say, it’s better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.
Pity is the fool who has never given him or herself because of the fear of hurt or failure. He/she will never experience the ultimate joy in life which is to feel, or love.