What and Who is Influencing You?

Everything influences your life..even the music you listen to. Whatever you desire in life, you’ll have to MAKE it your life. Eat, breathe, and sleep whatever that thing is. It should become your world.


You control the influences in your life!

Whatever, or whomever that doesn’t align should FALL to the wayside. That’s if your serious at least. Most people come to me and say, “Sarah, I miss it.” I say if you do, you’re not ready for anything else.

I have a distinct rule about spending special moments with others. Friends, strangers, including the people I date. I’m VERY selective. Especially when I’m in an intimate and vulnerable space. 2 to 1 chances I don’t do it. I’m personable, but not vulnerable. Not because I’m a snob or bougie – as most are quick to label me, but because I can’t STAND the memories that linger. It’s like I take chucks of people with me. An in retrospect, we do.

**I believe for anyone, it’s a privilege to see those sides of intimacy and vulnerability.

My mind is a vault that collects memories as I go, and it’s painful to remember the people who are no longer in my current reality. Therefore, I’m extra cautious and selective.


I shared that to say that, whenever I am missing someone, or certain space, I know I’m not ready to move on. For someone like me, it takes time. It’s also a clear indicator of what I need to work on. Because like I said, my memory is a vault. It has something to do with a small attachment as well. I know me. Yes, I get attached. Not a crazy attachment either. Emotionally..

Once you know who and what are the strongest influences and impressions on your life, you’ll begin to understand how much of a dose you need – or if you need any at all.

So, be careful of who and what will make up your world. Everything must align. Be selective. Be sure. Be distinct. Whatever, or whomever that doesn’t align should FALL to the wayside. From the music you listen to, to what you view (watch), to the people you share a space with.

The Bible says to guard your heart. I say, GUARD EVERYTHING like your life depended on it, because it does.

Everything WILL, HAS, & IS influencing your life.

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Sarah Lee

Welcome! My name is Sarah Lee and I'm a Business Strategist and social entrepreneur who loves the outdoors, a good book, and scary movies year round! Throughout this quirky, rich, and mysterious life of mine, I genuinely love to 'share' my experiences as a learning tool. I thought, what better way to track my level of growth than by sharing my experiences and the lessons learned thereof, than in my blog? A wise woman once said, "You are your own masterpiece, therefore, instead of mastering it, master you."

5 thoughts on “What and Who is Influencing You?”

  1. This is such a good point… I worry about my teenagers and what they allow to influence them. I try to remind them of this same point! Guard your heart!!

  2. I have had to learn this the past couple of years, decide to let the poison friends go even though we had so many amazing memories together. Now I am so selective, it is hard to let anyone in but when I do its so worth it!

  3. I understand you completely! I used to just let anyone into my life and have been screwed over so many times. Even my best friend since 3rd grade left me hanging freshman year of high school and we haven’t talked to each other since. After loosing her I realized that I can pick and choose who I let into my life. Now that I’m grown up and I’m a mom, I’m even more selective to who my influences are in my life. I don’t want my daughter to be exposed to anything that might affect her too.

  4. Wonderful post. I agree with you 100% that we need to be selective and guard everything because there are a lot of things and people in this world that influence us for the worst. (I hope this makes sense. English is not my first language) Thank you for writing this.

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