Everything influences your life..even the music you listen to. Whatever you desire in life, you’ll have to MAKE it your life. Eat, breathe, and sleep whatever that thing is. It should become your world.
You control the influences in your life!
Whatever, or whomever that doesn’t align should FALL to the wayside. That’s if your serious at least. Most people come to me and say, “Sarah, I miss it.” I say if you do, you’re not ready for anything else.
I have a distinct rule about spending special moments with others. Friends, strangers, including the people I date. I’m VERY selective. Especially when I’m in an intimate and vulnerable space. 2 to 1 chances I don’t do it. I’m personable, but not vulnerable. Not because I’m a snob or bougie – as most are quick to label me, but because I can’t STAND the memories that linger. It’s like I take chucks of people with me. An in retrospect, we do.
**I believe for anyone, it’s a privilege to see those sides of intimacy and vulnerability.
My mind is a vault that collects memories as I go, and it’s painful to remember the people who are no longer in my current reality. Therefore, I’m extra cautious and selective.
I shared that to say that, whenever I am missing someone, or certain space, I know I’m not ready to move on. For someone like me, it takes time. It’s also a clear indicator of what I need to work on. Because like I said, my memory is a vault. It has something to do with a small attachment as well. I know me. Yes, I get attached. Not a crazy attachment either. Emotionally..
Once you know who and what are the strongest influences and impressions on your life, you’ll begin to understand how much of a dose you need – or if you need any at all.
So, be careful of who and what will make up your world. Everything must align. Be selective. Be sure. Be distinct. Whatever, or whomever that doesn’t align should FALL to the wayside. From the music you listen to, to what you view (watch), to the people you share a space with.
The Bible says to guard your heart. I say, GUARD EVERYTHING like your life depended on it, because it does.
Everything WILL, HAS, & IS influencing your life.