“I wouldn’t date her, she doesn’t even know how to bake a cake.”
So I’m here cutting out the pieces for the fabric that’ll make up the dress that I’m making, and the word domesticated sprung into my mind.
You see, guys or people in general, would look at me and categorize me as the typical business woman who doesn’t cook or do anything other than work towards her business and/or ambition. One who’s statistically likely to not get married, but live life wealthy, just as a single mother looking for the right one at age 40. Hmm..
This is what y’all believe.
I been told before that I am Taraji P Henson’s character off of the movie Think Like A Man. I’ve heard it all, trust me. But, that’s besides the point–I’m just trying to paint a picture here.
I’ve learned more and more how the baby boomers’ generation (yes that’s where things 1st took a left turn, believe it or not), my generation, and the one now, carry out general living – via the system (the norm), all WRONG.
Let’s go back to the word domesticated. Domesticated is universally known as, home care (to “tame”). In rap songs, it’s solely referred to a woman who cooks.
In today’s day and age, we take everything regarding popular culture via the media, as fact. Facts that becomes beliefs, and then morals, and then it’s universally stereotyped the minute people begin acting upon those said morals a.k.a. beliefs.
So here’s the 411.
Being domesticated is not only traditional home care, and just a woman who can cook. Domestication is a TRADE. You know the thing they USE TO teach EVERYBODY in middle school? Or maybe not if you’re under the age of the age of 40 or so.
Of course gender related trades were taught to girls, and others to boys.
Everyone was learning something, in regards to maintaining a home, but both genders weren’t referenced to being domesticated. Only women.
Take a moment to stop and check, challenge rather, your beliefs. Because most people will probably read this and say, yea she’s not the norm. And maybe in a sense I ‘m not, because the mass majority has adopted the modern stereotype, but do not categorized every women who is business orientated as one who is solely knee-deep into her ambition and/or career.
So I guess, maybe they’re right. My life will not be the normal, traditional, “honey I’m home,” household. It’ll be balanced, and it’ll work for me and my husband to be.
I get to the end if this to realize that it sounds feminist-ish! lol I promise you, this is NOT a feminist post, but I just HATE stereotypes. Plus I’m a woman and I’m just sharing my thoughts and experiences. I don’t like to be branded in any way unless it’s related to who I am, the actions in which I practice and integrate in my daily life. All integrity.