The lines of “self-love” and being what others define as “self-love” is definitely blurred.
In the movie Dope, everyone should check out that movie on Netflix by the way, there is a scene in the movie where a certain black market dealer shows Malcolm (the main character) two designer handbags and asks him which is fake.
Of course he couldn’t figure out which was which, so the dealer responds in saying, “It doesn’t matter if the bag is real or not…all that matters is how you carry it.”
Let that sink in.
I made mention of that to say, self-love is according to your own standards. Who cares for others to weigh in on your public expression as authentic or a practice of self-love or the lack thereof?
Curly, straight, real, or fake. As long as you are comfortable with yourself 1st – naturally, and in that same element with your partner/spouse when home, what’s the deal in having to display or prove your naturalness to all of America?
In that manner, I believe self-love boils down to each person’s level of comfortability.
No one has walked the same path.
Some people, although incredibly gorgeous naturally, may not have been that way all their life.
Or, life and the circumstances contained led them to be more introverted with their personal display, and it turns out that being in their natural state is not comfortable to be on display for everyone at all times.
I dig all the movements to promote self-love, as they too have their place in servicing others. But, lets allow people to express themselves as they see fit for business, personal, or pleasure without all the attacks.
This is all a growing process. Let’s allow everyone to grow at their own pace without judgement.