Let’s jump back in, shall we?

Friends, followers and dedicated readers,

Happy Monday! It’s been awhile since I published a blog post and today, before I continued posting anywhere else, I told myself that I had to come check with my followers here. So, here I Am! ❤

Between having to squeeze content out to finish my book and having to deal with other personal and business related demands, these days I’m looking to only fill my time with things that are nurturing to my spiritual well-being. As a creative, it can get extremely exhausting when you’re constantly giving, giving, giving. When I pour out, I must engage in things and with people who pour back into me.

Here’s what I’ve noticed lately. Although I’m wedged and associated with many businesses and business related organizations and institutions, I really don’t care about any of it. That’s the thought that I had the other day. lol I care because I have something to give, but I’d rather be talking about something else. Something like sharing the techniques on how someone can become who they need to be to access the resources they desire. I’d rather discuss that instead of leading people to scour the earth for strategies on obtaining success (that is illusionary, by the way) by increasing their bank account. I’m not saying I have all the answers. But what I do know is, by applying practical skills and strategies to navigate through the everyday challenges in your life, you will undoubtably reach a personal success that will increase everything in your life, not just your wallet.

I think we make life harder than it actually is by believing that we need something outside of ourselves. That we are lacking something and if we get more money, a better car, or somehow bump into our soul mate while on the way to the grocery store, we’d finally be happy. That couldn’t be far more from the truth.

“There is no need to search; achievement leads to nowhere. It makes no difference at all, so just be happy now! Love is the only reality of the world, because it is all One, you see. And the only laws are paradox, humor and change. There is no problem, never was, and never will be. Release your struggle, let go of your mind, throw away your concerns, and relax into the world. No need to resist life, just do your best. Open your eyes and see that you are far more than you imagine. You are the world, you are the universe; you are yourself and everyone else, too! It’s all the marvelous Play of God. Wake up, regain your humor. Don’t worry, just be happy. You are already free!”
Dan Millman, Way of the Peaceful Warrior: A Book That Changes Lives

Xoxo,

Sarah

Happy Spring.

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Put it ALL in perspective.

The hardest moments of your life will be when you’re transitioning from one version of yourself to another.

The pressure of personal and professional advancement will get heavier. It’ll be as if a large piece of cement has been laid on your chest and as time passes, it gets heavier and heavier. As this is happening, your tolerance for certain things, things that may not have bothered you before, will become unbearable. You’re losing oxygen and now you’re seconds away from panicking. To reduce the pressure you have to either decrease your altitude immediately or ride it out until you get to your destination.

Ride it out.

With altitude, some people and things are just going to flat-out die: Relationships, friendships, habits, old desires etc.

As things begin to fall off, proceed with your pursuit and continue to go higher. The weight that needs to fall off, will. Don’t be afraid of a little chaos. Let the chaos relieve the pressure as you go higher.

When you’re walking in a life of vision and purpose, you have to come to the realization that not everyone is going to be down with what you’re doing, and you just have to be okay with that.

It’s a long narrow and winding road for sure. But, I guarantee you it’s a road worth taking.

Put what you want into perspective.

Go all in for what you know to be true and allow yourself to be everything good, bad, and/or ugly when necessary. All of it contributes to the making of your journey.

This is life. Pressure and all.

Life isn’t happening to you, but for you.

When you have, give!

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And on this Saturday, I just wanted to sleep in! But, today had other plans…

Some people knew, but I have been in the middle of selling some property. I’m back in Florida for a few weeks and I wanted to quickly wrap up what I needed to and leave.
In regards to the property I was adamant on selling, I attempted to rent that specific home on two separate occasions. I tried to help a few people in doing so and ended up on the back end BOTH times. I was, and in some way I still am, over it! I was in that ‘if you can’t come with it, I don’t want to hear’ it mode.
Late last night I get a phone call. It’s my mom (she’s ALWAYS trying to help somebody – God bless her heart) and she tells me of yet another person who needs help. I say my peace and get off the phone. About an hour later, it’s late now, I get a phone call from a strange number. Normally I don’t pick up, but this time I did. It’s the woman my mom was talking about. We talk and I agree to meet her at one of my properties today at 10:30 am.
10:18 am I’m still in bed. I was kinda praying she canceled because I wanted to sleep in so bad, but I called her and she said her GPS had her scheduled for exactly 10:30 am. Me: Uhhhhhhhh! I hop out of bed, brush my teeth, wash my face, threw on some workout clothes and sprung out the door. Thank God I was only 10 minutes away.
After showing her the house I lay it to her straight. Again, I’m over it. I don’t want no hemming and hawing. Seriously!
We talk for a bit and come to a decision. Here’s how the final decision came about.
The woman I met with today, her name is Jo. Jo has four kids. She’s basically homeless and she’s trying to get away (pending a divorce) from her abusive husband. She looked at me and said, “It took courage to say enough is enough after 15 years of abuse, it took courage to start my career, and it took a helluva lot of courage to even leave! I believe what you think about, you bring about, and when your mom came to me with this…”  I intercepted right there and said ‘okay, let’s work this out’ because now she’s speaking my language.
After going over some numbers and dates, we wrapped things up. I congratulated her for taking a leap (especially from getting away from her wack ass husband), I encouraged her to continue following the path she was on, and we went our separate ways.
Before locking up the house and hopping in my car to proceed forth with my day, I came to this realization.
When you have, no matter how many times you’ve been burned, it’s up to you to give or at least offer. Leaders and providers sometimes forget their positions. Coming in we knew the cross it took to bear to get here, but when we do get here we sometimes forget the other sacrifices that pop up along the way.
I don’t want to ever get caught up in my own “stuff” that I forget to give – especially when I’m in a position to give.
It’s simple. When you get, give. There’s nothing you’ll ever lose that you won’t receive back IN ABUNDANCE. 
I was a little grumpy this morning because I’ve been running like a road runner this whole week. But, I Am thankful for this little reminder and I felt the need to share.
We are all abundant in different ways. Never ever forget to PAY IT FORWARD!
Xoxo
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When you’ve got it all, yet you’re still unhappy…

Let’s cut to the chase!

When your success is tied to achievements, guess what’s going to happen? Just guess.

Let’s use weight loss for an example. Here’s the conclusion from a woman’s perspective. You’re going to lose the weight, get a smaller waist, and a bigger butt and STILL feel as if you’re lacking something.

Listen…

If you’re working hard at something, you’re bound to get what you want. Here’s the thing, though. You’re going to get what you want and then sabotage it.

But why would you do that, right? Great question! Here’s why.

Deep down you already know that you’ve tied your success to something or someone who can eventually leave or be taken from you.

Therefore, before you lose something or before someone walks away from you, you’ll rid yourself of it to feel as if it was a decision you made ie. had control over. Either that or you’ll always be peaking around the corner. Looking for something “better”.

Now tell me, how many times have you done that?

No worries… I’ve done it too. The fear of losing something or having someone walk away from you is real.
Here’s the short answer to solving this very real issue, although it takes a looooong process to completely grasp.
You’ve gotta be happy and content with what you have NOW. Right now! Every roll, love handle etc. All of it!
Have goals and aspirations, yes. However, don’t let those goals and aspirations (“losing the weight”) make up who you are.
Never let it take the spotlight.
You are the star of the show.
Whether you lose the weight or not. #rememberthat
The same applied for relationships. It’s never them, IT’S YOU!

Gratitude, Prayer and it’s power.

The next time you pray (ask for anything from the God you serve) make sure you pray from a place of abundance, confidence, and gratitude.
 
The sad, I want this and that because I’m in a rough place prayers will gift you more sad and worried situations for you to pray for. The power is in the emotional intent of your prayers (your words). All things work in concert.
 
Try being comfortable for everything you have RIGHT NOW. Where you are right now, with all that you have, love all of it so much to the point where you feel like you’ll BURST!
Then, pray.
 
A wise person once said, “gratitude turns what we have into enough.”
This is no magic trick, my friend. The short story is, you HAVE and that is ENOUGH. Love thy neighbor as you love thyself. Everything is your neighbor. Love all of it!
What you want is coming. Relax…

Here’s what I’ve learned from Sweet 2016 thus far.

2016 is quickly expiring. Here are TWO very prominent lessons that I’ve learned/relearned in 2016 thus far.
 
I, for the most part, have always been a pretty tough cookie. That doesn’t mean I don’t cry, love hard, or get angry. It actually means the opposite.
 
If I love you, I’d kill for you. 
If I cry, it’ll be hard for me to stop. So, I try not too. In public anyways…
If I get angry, lets just say I have a future and I’m not a fool. I don’t like the feeling and quite frankly, I don’t have the energy to waste. I’ll take exit door #1.
Anyhow…
 
Lesson Numero Uno:
This lesson validates what I just told you above. I put NOTHING…not my future, my heart, or my well-being in another woman or man’s hand. Not ONE thing. All weight is on me!
Now this is not to say that I do not HOPE the people who care about me and are in my corner are not going to be cheering for me along way, providing the things I need when needed. Dammit I hope so! I’ve created a pretty powerful network for that exact purpose. My future is a collective effort. I Am, we are.
However, I CANNOT put that weight or expectation on them. I can’t! Because they couldn’t possibly know and understand FULLY my emotions and burning passion towards my future. But someone does. Me!
 
Lesson Numero Dos:
Any and every obstacle, circumstance, or situation that is diverting me from my plans, is carefully courting me towards my ultimate plan. Therefore, instead of wasting precious energy on wondering what the heck is going on I sit, wait, and flow with the new course I’m being sent towards.
Now, this is NEVER easy as the situation is in progress but I swear to you. If you take a minute to BE STILL and ask yourself, “What do I need to learn?” You will get your answer. Guaranteed!
Let disruptions happen. Sometimes we need to be interrupted in the most annoying ways for us to get the ultimate picture. Just don’t get in your own way throughout the process. Trust and believe that what every is happening is happening for and never against you.
Well…there you have it! The two most prominent lessons that I’ve learned/relearned in 2016 thus far.
Now share with me. What have you learned in 2016?

The little girl inside me is dancing!

Hear me.
 
I just received some crazy confirmations about things I’ve never quite expressed to anyone in detail. Things that are tied to my heart like my unborn children.
 
Listen…
 
Whatever you believe in your heart to be true about the direction of your life, TRUST IT.
 
Never allow anything external (family, friends, life events and/or circumstances) to change the perspective on what you believe is MOST true for you.
 
Whether it’s understood by others or not, trust!
 
YOU know the desires of your heart. YOU know the deepest expression of what makes your heart sing. You know!
 
Never let anyone deny you of that truth.
 
As cliché as it sounds, follow your heart. Follow it! It’ll be and has been your saving grace.
 
Be blinded by the standards and terms of the outside and hold onto what you know is for you.
 
Stay tuned.
P.S. I just had a birthday! Happy birthday to all of my Libras and to those who share a birthday on the 2nd of October with me.
Peace x blessings!

Are you wondering why you’re not in the place you expected to be?

The world, your world, does not LACKING anything.
Meaning everything in your life is a reflection of who YOU are (as a person), and what you can handle and/or give to others – all of your decisions, habits, behaviors, subconscious beliefs etc.
 
It’s the reason you’re single, married, a mom/dad, wealthy or not.
 
Quick example. Have you even seen or watched the show Charmed? It was one of my favorite tv shows a couple of years back. According to Wikipedia, “Charmed is about a trio of sisters, The Charmed Ones, the most powerful good witches of all time, who use their combined “Power of Three” to protect innocent lives from evil beings such as demons and warlocks etc.”
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Phoebe, one of the 3 sisters who make up the Charmed Ones, is the youngest sister. She’s the one who, out of all 3, 110% LOVE the responsibly of saving innocents, sacrificing the opportunity to live a normal life.
 
Phoebe is 95% of the time portrayed as the weaker sister (in her eyes anyways) because she doesn’t have an active power. Premonitions is her power. Phoebe complains all the time about it, and her sisters always assure her of her value.
 
Because Phoebe is SO INSECURE about her power aka her value, demons ALWAYS prey on her. Always!
 
Now, Phoebe is already a Charmed One. She makes up the holy trinity for Christ’s sake! Without her, there is no such thing as The Charmed Ones or the POWER of 3 etc.

 

Are you catching my point?

She is already everything. Her insecurity, which therefore creates the illusion of lack, is self-imposed. All of which spirals a TON of challenges, issues and circumstances to PROVE (to herself, mind you) THAT SHE IS ALREADY COMPLETE. #theprocess
 
In retrospect, that is what life does to us. 
Therefore if you’re wondering if you’re not in the place you expected to be in your life, look within. Ask yourself, what am I not realizing about myself, causing me to believe I’m without?

The ONE lesson I’ve continuously learned from children.

I’ve been in this incredible blissful state for the past few days.

Spending time with my extended and immediate family over the weekend has played a big part in that blissfulness, for sure.

You know, there’s something that always sticks out to me when I’m specifically around my nieces and nephews.

It happens with almost every kid I naturally gravitate towards.

It’s a lesson that I’m continuously taught every time I’m in the company of children.

Kids always remind me that sometimes we don’t need reason to do or to be who we are, nor do we need answers to every question answered.

I wholeheartedly believe that ultimately things will make sense for itself.

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There’s no need to define every little thing. Some things can and will grow by itself if we ALLOW, whatever it is, to be what it is.

Why do we insist in getting into our own way, creating resistance that wasn’t there to begin with?  Your life doesn’t need anymore than what it has required to exist RIGHT NOW. No matter what’s going on, you’re okay. 🙂

Miracles, magic, and serendipitous moments are what they are because they exist without logic or reasoning.

Just because you cannot figure out why something exists, doesn’t mean there isn’t a reason for its existence.

ForGIVEness.

I have a grandmother who has a  stone cold personality to her. She’s very loving and giving, but if you cross her bridge there’s no coming back. Never! I don’t care what God you serve, it’s not happening.

My dad will be the 1st to tell you not do what she does. But, lets not act like habits don’t naturally get picked up. Oh trust me, I try my hardest to make sure that I’m not manifesting that habit.

Be kind and compassionate to one another. Ephesians 4:7

We all have something to learn no matter who we are, what we’ve achieved, or where we’ve gone. That’s something I NEVER want to forget.

Even when it doesn’t feel justified, we have a choice to make. To forgive or not. To love or to hate.

I’m writing this post to let you know that I understand the fustrations of feeling like you’re wrong for protecting yourself, although it’s more than deserving. But keep in mind that your decisions are your own. What we issue to others will return to us in some form or another. Be aware of that fact.

There are moments I have to STOP myself and tone it back a bit.

It may take me second to realize, I’m thankful for the things that indirectly tell me what needs to be adjusted.

Thank God for grace, right?

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Truthfully, I’m such a close-knit individual that I probably take things a little tougher than most. Lets not mention how extremely minimal I am when it comes onto the people I let in my personal space (yeah right! I’m a blogger. lol).#paradox #ambivert

But I do know this, though. I don’t want to be an individual known as someone who cannot accept someone else who has done me wrong (forgive), whether that person is willing to apologize or not; because, I’m no saint.

Plus, there’s a level of leadership that I desire to be at. My service is personal development and sharing information to help others achieve the best version of themself. So, I’m sure there will be more incidents that’ll test me before achieving that honor.

Now, let me also address this fact. Just because you forgave someone does not mean you should always keep them in your personal space. Everything that we go through is apart of a learning process. LEARN from what has happened. Don’t open yourself up to repeat it.

Well, my 1st lesson of 2016 is in the bag. What’s a lesson of forgiveness you had to learn? How’d you deal with it?

*Losing_Tenth Avenue North