Real Friends. How Many Of Us?

I want to share this because energetic exchanges are real.

Today while I was out I met a male friend (it’s a fresh friendship) for a few minutes. I was getting an oil change and he was in the area.

Our interaction was fairly normal up until the last few seconds before departing. He’s a pretty cool guy with a pretty calm spirit. However, when we went our separate ways, I felt empty. It was as if someone sucked the life out of me.

Now, I was having a pretty good day and my spirits were high. What the hell just happened?

I’m a tell you.

I have quite a few male friends and it’s pretty easy befriending males, not that it’s any different with women. I am fully aware that some male “friends”, although they don’t say it, want to be more than friends. I can tell. It’s clear as day. Which is fine, whatever.

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But then there are the men who befriend you, want more, push for it and when you give the clear signal that either you’re not ready to go there quite yet or not at all, they begin to do things.

If they’re not using their words aggressively, they use their energy and/or treat you in a passive aggressive manner to get you to somehow yearn their company. That or they attempt to convince you that there’s something wrong with you.

I personally keep company with very few people and I’ll dismiss myself without warning if I feel something isn’t right. The truth behind that is, I’m very sensitive to other people’s energy. I’ve been that way since I’ve been a child. Therefore, I HEAVILY limit, govern and monitor my interaction with others. Religious institutions, professions, status, gender, money etc does not alter or offer up some type of exception to that either.

So no, I’m not being a B word or think I’m too good of a person for you.

Does it mean I care about someone any less if I suddenly disappear and am no longer around? No.

I just know that sometimes people’s intentions (both for men and woman) aren’t of the best intentions.

I’m not in denial. I get it. I have a pretty strong personality and it’s not widely popular, especially being a woman.

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But I want to make it clear that Sarah Lee comes first. I have to protect her space at all cost. Whether it’s a friendship or a relationship, I don’t care who you are, that will never supersede the importance of my sacred space.
In conclusion, I give all gratitude to the divine for supplying me with an abundance of amazing male and female friends that make it easy for me to sniff out who are not. I encourage you to strengthen your discernment and never compromise your space for an old or new friendship/relationship that doesn’t feel right.
I’m just sharing my experience.
~Xoxo
P.S. I’m not sure how I’m going to handle this new friendship. Instead of breaking it off without warning, I’ll attempt to point out my concerns. I think. *shrugs

E N T R E P R E N E U R S H I P pt. 2

Leading on from my last post, the same inconvenience I mentioned continued. As Murphy’s law states, anything that can go wrong, will go wrong.

I guess sometimes we cannot stop chaos to exist.

This inconvenience (the disconnect with my phone) continued on so long that I officially shed the first tears of 2017 because of it. And it wasn’t that I felt sorry for myself, but it was frustrating as hell – especially when you do all that there is in your power to make sure you cover your ass in every single thing you do, facilitating personal and professional affairs. All in all, I believe all of this was a lesson that I’ve been taught and retaught (that’s not a word, but you get what I’m saying) a million times over.

Lesson: Let go of the things you cannot control!

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No doubt, I failed! I fought and fought and fought to have things bend my way and ultimately the cards fell right where they started. Nowhere. There are multiple other variables to this, but the overall premise is that those things did not matter.

I’m not at all a control freak. But as an entrepreneur, rule number one says you must cover your tail at all ends. You’re all you’ve got. 

I’ve spent years becoming and being over efficient in all that I do that, in the same breath my strength also became my weakness.

The universe, God, the holy one, whatever you call your spiritual teacher, knows best. And much like I continue to learn, even in the worst of the worst situations, you’re still being led to something you ultimately desire.

Surrender…

Xoxo

“Sometimes letting go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.” – Eckhart Tolle

When you have, give!

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And on this Saturday, I just wanted to sleep in! But, today had other plans…

Some people knew, but I have been in the middle of selling some property. I’m back in Florida for a few weeks and I wanted to quickly wrap up what I needed to and leave.
In regards to the property I was adamant on selling, I attempted to rent that specific home on two separate occasions. I tried to help a few people in doing so and ended up on the back end BOTH times. I was, and in some way I still am, over it! I was in that ‘if you can’t come with it, I don’t want to hear’ it mode.
Late last night I get a phone call. It’s my mom (she’s ALWAYS trying to help somebody – God bless her heart) and she tells me of yet another person who needs help. I say my peace and get off the phone. About an hour later, it’s late now, I get a phone call from a strange number. Normally I don’t pick up, but this time I did. It’s the woman my mom was talking about. We talk and I agree to meet her at one of my properties today at 10:30 am.
10:18 am I’m still in bed. I was kinda praying she canceled because I wanted to sleep in so bad, but I called her and she said her GPS had her scheduled for exactly 10:30 am. Me: Uhhhhhhhh! I hop out of bed, brush my teeth, wash my face, threw on some workout clothes and sprung out the door. Thank God I was only 10 minutes away.
After showing her the house I lay it to her straight. Again, I’m over it. I don’t want no hemming and hawing. Seriously!
We talk for a bit and come to a decision. Here’s how the final decision came about.
The woman I met with today, her name is Jo. Jo has four kids. She’s basically homeless and she’s trying to get away (pending a divorce) from her abusive husband. She looked at me and said, “It took courage to say enough is enough after 15 years of abuse, it took courage to start my career, and it took a helluva lot of courage to even leave! I believe what you think about, you bring about, and when your mom came to me with this…”  I intercepted right there and said ‘okay, let’s work this out’ because now she’s speaking my language.
After going over some numbers and dates, we wrapped things up. I congratulated her for taking a leap (especially from getting away from her wack ass husband), I encouraged her to continue following the path she was on, and we went our separate ways.
Before locking up the house and hopping in my car to proceed forth with my day, I came to this realization.
When you have, no matter how many times you’ve been burned, it’s up to you to give or at least offer. Leaders and providers sometimes forget their positions. Coming in we knew the cross it took to bear to get here, but when we do get here we sometimes forget the other sacrifices that pop up along the way.
I don’t want to ever get caught up in my own “stuff” that I forget to give – especially when I’m in a position to give.
It’s simple. When you get, give. There’s nothing you’ll ever lose that you won’t receive back IN ABUNDANCE. 
I was a little grumpy this morning because I’ve been running like a road runner this whole week. But, I Am thankful for this little reminder and I felt the need to share.
We are all abundant in different ways. Never ever forget to PAY IT FORWARD!
Xoxo
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There is no spoon…

The Matrix is one of my favorite movies. I can watch it a million times and get something new from it.

As I was watching The Matrix a couple of weeks ago, this is what sprang to mind:

In order to receive what you want out of life, YOU must adjust to any and every situation, person, and/or circumstance you’ll encounter on your way to achieving your dream. It will not adjust to you.

Remember, it’s YOU WHO WANT IT.

“It is not the spoon that bends, it’s you.”

Adjusting is the process. A process that most quit because of their failure to adjust.

They became their own resistance.

Much like Neo in the movie, most people have a hard time letting go of their old life (who they are without what they’re asking for), instead of surrendering (adjusting) to who they need to become to have and maintain what they’re asking for.

Xoxo

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P.S. The scene where Neo goes to visit the Oracle is my all time favorite. That scene and the one where Neo no longer seeks for validation that he is indeed The One towards the end. Have you seen this movie? If you have, what’s your favorite scene?

Life is a daring adventure…

It’s well over a week (well, only like one day over) into the new year and I’m just now checking in. So bad! With all good reason, though.

I have NEVER experienced losing someone so close to me that it affects almost everything surrounding you. Family, finances, communication, emotions, relationships…you name it! I haven’t even begun to wrap my mind around everything because of how chaotic things have been. My only desire is to MOVE THE HECK ON! But, with all of your might, it seems very resistant on every attempt.

In true Sarah Lee fashion, wherever there is an open door I take it!

Life is a daring adventure…either you do or you don’t.

Outside of my personal transitions, I’m now back into FULL BLOWN entrepreneurship mode. Upon hiding out in the mid-west, I’ve taken upon a few projects to ramp up my new normal and the overall tighten the passing of a parent puts you.

Have you ever been strangled? (I hope not)  That’s what it feeling like almost everyday!

As I sit here at the dining room table, next to the fireplace with an amazing view of the mountains, instead of feeling anxious about all that I have on my plate (like on a normal day), I Am extremely grateful for this space of peace. Honestly, that’s all I wanted or want post my dad’s transition. PEACE – aka a space to deal with everything.

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And then there’s everyone back home and everywhere else buzzing around, asking questions trying to figure out where I am and who I’m with.

By the way, why does a MAN have to be the reason why a girl picks up and runs away for space? smh I’m not that girl, folks, so cut it– no offense to those that are. People and their opinions…

One of my biggest fears is, I don’t want any of what has happened to affect me in the future (emotionally and mentally), because I haven’t given myself enough time to deal with everything. Sure, I Am forever changed, yet there are detrimental things that on an emotional level can affect me if I don’t take time to just DEAL.

Now that I’m  here (in a kind of paradoxical situation), although it’s not ideal, I know it’s purposeful. There are so many decisions left to make and it’s an extremely tough position to be in when you don’t have the person around who you should consult with before making these tough decisions. I may sound optimist and insightful, but it’s a daily struggle to NOT be flat out angry at everything and everyone, including my dad. Terrible isn’t it? It’s the most confusing thing ever.

Even though I am rarely in this weird, “I don’t know” position, here’s what I know for sure.

“Life is full of lessons. However there are no right or wrong answers. Just messages that we hear and follow.”-Unknown

Let this adventure of blind faith through happiness and sometimes sorrow, continue.

Thanks for listening.

Xoxo

When you’ve got it all, yet you’re still unhappy…

Let’s cut to the chase!

When your success is tied to achievements, guess what’s going to happen? Just guess.

Let’s use weight loss for an example. Here’s the conclusion from a woman’s perspective. You’re going to lose the weight, get a smaller waist, and a bigger butt and STILL feel as if you’re lacking something.

Listen…

If you’re working hard at something, you’re bound to get what you want. Here’s the thing, though. You’re going to get what you want and then sabotage it.

But why would you do that, right? Great question! Here’s why.

Deep down you already know that you’ve tied your success to something or someone who can eventually leave or be taken from you.

Therefore, before you lose something or before someone walks away from you, you’ll rid yourself of it to feel as if it was a decision you made ie. had control over. Either that or you’ll always be peaking around the corner. Looking for something “better”.

Now tell me, how many times have you done that?

No worries… I’ve done it too. The fear of losing something or having someone walk away from you is real.
Here’s the short answer to solving this very real issue, although it takes a looooong process to completely grasp.
You’ve gotta be happy and content with what you have NOW. Right now! Every roll, love handle etc. All of it!
Have goals and aspirations, yes. However, don’t let those goals and aspirations (“losing the weight”) make up who you are.
Never let it take the spotlight.
You are the star of the show.
Whether you lose the weight or not. #rememberthat
The same applied for relationships. It’s never them, IT’S YOU!

Here’s what I’ve learned from Sweet 2016 thus far.

2016 is quickly expiring. Here are TWO very prominent lessons that I’ve learned/relearned in 2016 thus far.
 
I, for the most part, have always been a pretty tough cookie. That doesn’t mean I don’t cry, love hard, or get angry. It actually means the opposite.
 
If I love you, I’d kill for you. 
If I cry, it’ll be hard for me to stop. So, I try not too. In public anyways…
If I get angry, lets just say I have a future and I’m not a fool. I don’t like the feeling and quite frankly, I don’t have the energy to waste. I’ll take exit door #1.
Anyhow…
 
Lesson Numero Uno:
This lesson validates what I just told you above. I put NOTHING…not my future, my heart, or my well-being in another woman or man’s hand. Not ONE thing. All weight is on me!
Now this is not to say that I do not HOPE the people who care about me and are in my corner are not going to be cheering for me along way, providing the things I need when needed. Dammit I hope so! I’ve created a pretty powerful network for that exact purpose. My future is a collective effort. I Am, we are.
However, I CANNOT put that weight or expectation on them. I can’t! Because they couldn’t possibly know and understand FULLY my emotions and burning passion towards my future. But someone does. Me!
 
Lesson Numero Dos:
Any and every obstacle, circumstance, or situation that is diverting me from my plans, is carefully courting me towards my ultimate plan. Therefore, instead of wasting precious energy on wondering what the heck is going on I sit, wait, and flow with the new course I’m being sent towards.
Now, this is NEVER easy as the situation is in progress but I swear to you. If you take a minute to BE STILL and ask yourself, “What do I need to learn?” You will get your answer. Guaranteed!
Let disruptions happen. Sometimes we need to be interrupted in the most annoying ways for us to get the ultimate picture. Just don’t get in your own way throughout the process. Trust and believe that what every is happening is happening for and never against you.
Well…there you have it! The two most prominent lessons that I’ve learned/relearned in 2016 thus far.
Now share with me. What have you learned in 2016?

The little girl inside me is dancing!

Hear me.
 
I just received some crazy confirmations about things I’ve never quite expressed to anyone in detail. Things that are tied to my heart like my unborn children.
 
Listen…
 
Whatever you believe in your heart to be true about the direction of your life, TRUST IT.
 
Never allow anything external (family, friends, life events and/or circumstances) to change the perspective on what you believe is MOST true for you.
 
Whether it’s understood by others or not, trust!
 
YOU know the desires of your heart. YOU know the deepest expression of what makes your heart sing. You know!
 
Never let anyone deny you of that truth.
 
As cliché as it sounds, follow your heart. Follow it! It’ll be and has been your saving grace.
 
Be blinded by the standards and terms of the outside and hold onto what you know is for you.
 
Stay tuned.
P.S. I just had a birthday! Happy birthday to all of my Libras and to those who share a birthday on the 2nd of October with me.
Peace x blessings!

Life’s reality..

You know what the reality is?
 
Life does not care what you do, who you are, how much money you make, what country you came from, what you drive, what your future will look like, who your significant other is or if you have one etc.
 
Life certain does not consider or care about the unfortunate circumstances of how you were raised.
 
What can happen, will. There’s no gauge or condition to it.
Don’t let your emotions cripple you.
Whether rain or shine, you must be able to get up and continue.
Don’t make what you do, who your with, you future plans (THAT DOES NOT EXIST – yet) dictate your happiness and who you are. What happens if something compromises your career or if that person you’re with leaves you??? Who will you be then?
What’s REAL is what you can feel, touch, taste, and experience.
Experience.
Momentarily.
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Your life is like a glass vase. Handle with care.

Tune in and go get it!

Remember: You can ONLY attract to you the qualities in which you posses.

Therefore whatever you resist, you are drawing to you. Resistance is fear. What you fear, you are or will become.

The time you spend thinking, feeling, or outwardly acting and expressing yourself about the things you don’t want, is attracting and manifesting what you’re spending time on in abundance.

Do you see how YOU DESIGN YOUR OWN LIFE?

Let go of the things you don’t want and pick up the things you get.

Get AWAY from the people you do not desire to be and GET AROUND those that you do.

MOVE to the place you want to live.

LOVE the person you want without trying to match everything up.

GO after the things, unicorns, and aspirations you deem impossible.

More (magic) is what you’ll get. ABUNDANCE.

Just DO IT!

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